I was on a lady's blog the other day where she described herself as sister, friend, daughter, wife, etc.
It got me thinking...how would I describe me? I really hate labels. I mean I really hate them. Maybe it is a fear of the commitment they imply, or maybe it is just that labels are so limiting. (see: chip on my shoulder) Maybe I hate them because I am such a "gray area" thinker that I resist pretty much all things that restrict me to a black and white world. ?
The label I hate the most would have to be stay-at-home-mom(SAHM). Admittedly I use it, but I always feel the need to add something to it, lest someone might think I stay at home because I am too stupid or talentless to get a paying job. (see that chip now, dontcha!) This is ironic because I probably have the most supportive husband on the planet when it comes to me being at home with the kids. He would do anything to make it happen because he is a true believer that it makes a positive impact on the kids. It is a choice, not a sentence. And it is not without sacrifice.
It's not that I don't see the value in my job: I do. Back in the day when my SAHM friends were lawyers, accountants, investment bankers and other awesome titled women, this label seemed less of a burden. It was so obvious they were just shifting priorities. Intentionally. But these days, where we live now, it seems the SAHM is a dying breed. Most career-women I know do not stay home. And the women that do stay home are largely career-less, like me. This is an interesting trend. (People always fascinate me.)Perhaps it is the economy or my age...who knows.
So the question remains: how would I choose to to define myself? I guess I don't know the answer...or maybe I am afraid to pin myself down. It seems like it changes so much. (yesterday, for example, I could have earned the title of vomit-cleaner-upper!) I would have to have the words artist, wife, mother in there somewhere, I guess, but that seems so hollow and so incomplete that even now I am thinking of deleting that sentence.
How do you define yourself? Maybe I need some inspiration.